tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post7045198237891012764..comments2022-11-05T16:14:32.392+08:00Comments on cake crumbs & beach sand: Calm over egoPeggyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17598892582207477663noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-63636771193894214362012-06-29T23:28:43.654+08:002012-06-29T23:28:43.654+08:00That's awesome Rachael. And you're spot on...That's awesome Rachael. And you're spot on, it isn't your responsibility to appease someone just because they choose to be angry. Not feeling anger actually gives you more power, well I think so anyway. :)Peggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598892582207477663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-15287090916131718412012-06-25T20:35:47.771+08:002012-06-25T20:35:47.771+08:00Reannon I used to keep my thoughts in out of fear ...Reannon I used to keep my thoughts in out of fear of offending others, but over time I have learnt to speak my mind. I don't always please everyone by doing so, and it isn't always easy, but I am getting there. By being upfront with my opinions in situations I find I fly off the handle less. As you say, it isn't getting bottled up and then through frustration exploding when I have had enough. I get you, I truly do. I too am naturally that way inclined.<br /><br />Keeping calm and not flying off the handle seriously feels sooooo much better, because as you know you do walk away still feeling crappy having erupted. You can be calm, you already know you can. I personally know controlling anger and frustration is very difficult, but being a former fiery spirit I know it is very possible. <br /><br />Good luck Reannon. xoPeggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598892582207477663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-32114630658121248492012-06-25T20:00:27.919+08:002012-06-25T20:00:27.919+08:00Thanks Shar, trying to remain poised. :) xoThanks Shar, trying to remain poised. :) xoPeggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598892582207477663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-69113629699609012782012-06-25T19:56:41.660+08:002012-06-25T19:56:41.660+08:00Works very well in an environment where you need t...Works very well in an environment where you need to remain professional Kaisla. Good luck! xoPeggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598892582207477663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-63449489238241632442012-06-25T19:48:12.305+08:002012-06-25T19:48:12.305+08:00"what would you like me to do?" those wo..."what would you like me to do?" those words have been my saving grace working in hospitality. All to often you cop the full brunt of someone's bad day or anger, for what ever reason, looking to make someone feel more shit than they do. It made me so sick for a long time until I realized just that...it's their anger, not mine and Regardless of whether I did something to provoke their anger or not, they indeed chose to be angry. It has help my anger too, I used to be so fiery but now...not so much =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-60250049391377201142012-06-25T10:22:05.218+08:002012-06-25T10:22:05.218+08:00I'm still fiery. I still fly off the handle. I...I'm still fiery. I still fly off the handle. I still rant & rave. I usually hate myself afterwards & guilt engulfs me because it's usually my family that feel the brunt of my frustration.It's usually happens because I haven't said how I felt first up & I let it dwell until I boil over like a crazy woman. Rarely does it get me anywhere or make me feel better.<br />One day I hope to be calm & serene. One day very soon.Reannon https://www.blogger.com/profile/04215161182830545561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-77719625899616979402012-06-25T08:13:01.612+08:002012-06-25T08:13:01.612+08:00Such poise and grace. I love it.
:-) xxSuch poise and grace. I love it.<br />:-) xxMum on the Runhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16543791863884733714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-39690049360500544872012-06-25T04:46:56.273+08:002012-06-25T04:46:56.273+08:00Sounds like a great approach to facing aggressive ...Sounds like a great approach to facing aggressive people! Might have to try this at work one day. :) xKaislahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11380000070495671120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-42596424595983749252012-06-24T18:01:19.263+08:002012-06-24T18:01:19.263+08:00Oh that's mostly my issue too Alicia, I can ha...Oh that's mostly my issue too Alicia, I can happily not enter into it then and there but then later I think of 400 things I could have said as a retort! Not taking it on and not letting it get into my head later are the two things I work on.Peggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598892582207477663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4399105551382451067.post-1182636479736328302012-06-24T17:19:11.266+08:002012-06-24T17:19:11.266+08:00wise words, I am really working on not letting agg...wise words, I am really working on not letting aggressive people get to me too, having a lot of practise in that area!<br />It is more so making sure that I dont re think of their agression afterwards too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com